Anything goes for Uni

[Emme]

For Frozzie


Marie

[mcmich]

Thx guys.. Cant as we are expecting guests.. Woohoo to the ambiance lol.. Ive learnt to let things go in the moment but i dont forget... Ive had in my head about dh the kids and i leaving and going somewhere for a while but there is so much going on.. Im so sorry im blabbing on with my dramas.. There is something said r living on the other side of the world.., peace.. !!

Frozzie, keep focused on why you are living with your parents - a financial benefit until you get your own home - this is something special that your parents are doing for you too.

Talk to your dad, tell how much you appreciate them helping you at this time and "dad I know you are struggling with so many of us in the house, what is it I can do to make that easier?" " I love you dad, miss being your girl" Could we plan and cook some meals together? - take a couple of nights off a week and I will cook, you know how much I love to cook - must have got that from you dad."

Sounds a bit cheesy but it may open a door to an easier path. 

[goldfish]

Frozzie - if you can, put what Michele is advising into practice and see what happens.  It's excellent advice and certainly can't make matters worse.  It won't be overnight - but just keep chipping away in that vein and you might be surprised where it leads. (I certainly hope so!! )

There (unfortunately!) comes a time when the child needs to gradually become the parent - most of us here have been there, and I daresay our children will face that as we ourselves become older.  

I know it's difficult but try to act rather than react, and remember the honey vs vinegar saying

You said your dad wasn't always like this . . .could be that he's  reaching a stage of needing  some kind of support. Does he have regular medicals, etc.?

Good luck! - and we're all pulling for you!!

[Yvette]

Good advice girls hang in there Frozzie unfortunately when people get to a certain age they get very set in their ways and life has to evolve around them and things done their way

[judydawn]

Maybe moving away from the area would be preferably now that you know Dad is not the same person you remembered Kim.  It would be sad for Mum to miss out on having you closer but I'm sure she is craving peace as well and she can always leave him home and come to visit you wherever you set up house.  I wish I could click my fingers and pull a job for DH out of the air.  Any pokers in the fire or has nothing suitable been found yet?  It's a terrible situation and only seems to be getting worse.  I hope the children are not affected by the tension in the house.  Thinking of you 

[droverjess]

Oh Frozzie
More hugs and wise words on here.
Xxx

Hello everyone.

[Amy :-)]

Hi DJ

Big hugs Frozzie, wish there was more we could do

[Cornish Cream]

Evening Everyone
Morning DJ
Like DJ,sending more hugs.

[droverjess]

Right must get going.
Clean sheets, DH home tonight. And a bit of a tidy up.

Having a cuppa this morning at the agency to see what's what with the nannying world...  Working this afternoon.

Off to check my pony is ok tomorrow, he is out on loan. Still hope they'll buy him IDC. It's over 2 hrs from here.

Have a good day CC and good evening/night everyone else.

[Amy :-)]

Morning CC

Have a good day DJ and CC

[astarra]

Hope all is working out for you Froz. 

[kezza]

Goodness Uni, buy an electric one That thing sounds dangerous.

Frozzie, hang in there.

[cookie1]

Thinking of you Kim. I hope things improve. 

[Kimmyh]

Morning DJ and CC. Evening girls.
Frozzie if there is any room I am sending you a big hug too. One day at a time you will get through it.

[Frozzie]

Thx all for your thoughts and listening... Michelle to the advice ive done all that and we bought them some nice gifts along with a card thanking them for turning their lives upside down to help,us as well.. I think he is really struggling with us.. Mum says he was like that before.. Well of late.. He has a personality that i find hard to take.. He likes to dictate and pick and im more of a Listener, have my opinion but always listen and dont take well to dictators..

Dh is an electrical engineer specialising in robotics but his career has been in heading up maintenance, engineering or production dept in factories but is open to all kinds of maintenance or production management type jobs in qld (pref sth east) ..for the moment anyway..if anyone wants any other info you can pm me..

Im after any kind of admin job...

Basically on the job front there hasnt been much advertisied and what has there has been a huge pick of applicants but it uas beeen the silly season for the best part of time since dh arrived .. Have been told it will pick up mid to,late jan???

It would kill mum if we moved elsewhere without trying to find work here.. I think it will be much better when we are in our own place and he has his space and routine back.. Well im hoping..

Dinner went well and he changed personality and was nice all night which we expected.. He did mention tonight that he is finding it hard after not having kids around for so long.. Im just over it.. Ive tried everything to help out and be ice but no matter what i do he finds something wrong... We certain
Y havent forgot why we are here and are grateful but it doesnt need to be like it is...anyhoo... Thx for the ears!!' Lol.

Jd the kids seem ok just they tend to cry alot easier.. Think the stress is getting to them but we are trying to take them out as much as possible...the whole thing is a big change but we will get there... Just a dbad couple of days!  What was that saying... This too will pass!