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A part of me has gone...
« on: March 13, 2015, 04:29:08 am »
I haven't been on here for a while, have been pretty busy and dealing with the fact that I was losing my precious sister to cancer.

My sister was diagnosed with kidney, lung and bone cancer in December. She passed suddenly on 24th Feb, 5 days after my birthday. I was fortunate to spend the night with her on my birthday as she insisted on cooking a special meal for me.

She was a fighter, very healthy with no symptoms of the disease until a couple of months before she was diagnosed. She was losing weight and not interested in eating, so went to the doctor. Kidney disease has no symptoms until it's too late.

She had bought a TM5 earlier in the year after going to a demo with me. She really loved it and told me before she went that she wanted my DD to have it.  Jess already has a TM31, so will pass that on to my other sister.

We three sisters were very, very close, talking on the phone or by email every couple of days. We went away together every five years and our last trip was to Paris last April. Thank goodness we had that time together.

I read my tribute to her at the funeral and was really glad that I got through it. My training as a Funeral Celebrant kicked in.

My life is different now, without my older sister giving advice, keeping me on track and just generally thinking I was wonderful. We three are now two and will carry on the legacy.

My DH and I are very close to our BIL, so hope that he will still visit regularly. He's very clever with his hands and loves to fix things. I feed him and he fixes everything and does all the jobs that DH puts off. Just won't be quite the same without my sis by my side in the kitchen.

Just thought I'd add a recent photo. Sue was on steroids for my son's recent wedding in January. She was really well and absolutely loved the wedding. I'm glad that she also knew that they were expecting a longed-for baby. She's the one on the right.
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Re: A part of me has gone...
« Reply #1 on: March 13, 2015, 05:03:26 am »
So very sorry to hear of the passing of your sister, it's is such a wrench when someone close to you goes - it will leave a big hole in your hearts and lives for a long time to come.

My condolences to you and your family.
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« Reply #2 on: March 13, 2015, 05:07:48 am »
Oh Megan what a Lovely trubute to your  sister, I'm sure she will always be around in spirit,. I don't know what it is like to have a sister I'm sure it is special, i have three brothers all a lot younger but we are close especially in time of need.  Hugs to you xxxxx

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« Reply #3 on: March 13, 2015, 05:09:08 am »
MJ, I am so very sorry to hear you sad news.  You must feel so blessed to have had such a wonderful close relationship with your sister which many would envy.  The memories you have of the holidays spent with your two sisters will be something you will have to forever treasure.  Lots of love

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« Reply #4 on: March 13, 2015, 05:40:50 am »
MJ my deepest sympathy to you and all your family. I don't have a sister either but I'm sure the bond is very special.

             
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« Reply #5 on: March 13, 2015, 05:41:13 am »
Megan, I really don't know what to say except please accept my condolences to you and the rest of your family at such a sad time.  I'm glad you got to spend some quality time with her  xx.

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« Reply #6 on: March 13, 2015, 06:05:55 am »
MJ it sounds like you have lots of wonderful memories of your sister. I can't believe she was able to cook you a birthday meal at that time - thats incredible, and certainly a meal you will never forget. I've seen this picture of you all on Facebook and thought you all must be sisters as there is a strong family resemblance in your faces. I'm sure she's she's not far :-*
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« Reply #7 on: March 13, 2015, 06:21:13 am »
Sorry to hear of your loss MJ.  What a wonderful relationship you have had with both sisters and now lots of lovely memories of your beautiful older sister.  That last trip to Paris, in hindsight, how special was that.  She will remain in your lives through these memories and I'm sure you and your younger sister will be a great support to each other.



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« Reply #8 on: March 13, 2015, 07:12:56 am »
Megan I'm so sorry to hear the news about your sister, I'm very sorry for your loss. 
The trip to Paris was such a special thing for the three of you and the memories of the trip and your lives together will last forever.
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« Reply #9 on: March 13, 2015, 08:44:05 am »
Deepest sympathy MJ. Your words are lovely. Thank you for sharing XOX

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« Reply #10 on: March 13, 2015, 01:32:51 pm »
Meagan, what a beautiful photo to treasure, I am so sorry for your huge loss.
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« Reply #11 on: March 13, 2015, 01:44:08 pm »
My deepest sympathy MJ.You certainly had a wonderful relationship with your elder sister.Thank you for sharing the special photo with us all :-*
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« Reply #12 on: March 13, 2015, 09:24:26 pm »
Take care Megan, sorry for your loss. :)
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« Reply #13 on: March 14, 2015, 03:21:04 am »
Megan, I'm so sorry to read of your loss.  My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
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« Reply #14 on: March 14, 2015, 03:42:04 am »
Deepest sympathy to you and your family Meagan. How wonderful to have so many happy memories.
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