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[judydawn]

I am a great believer of depriving them of their electronic games etc - they have become so used to them they don't really know what to do without them.  Parents are so busy these days it is easy to give into them just for some peace and quiet but this is not a solution and their behavious will continue to spiral out of control until they get what they want if it is not nipped in the bud.  Gert you could get a job going to households with problem children like that UK Nanny show with the naughty corner punishment.

I cannot believe your school has told you they have to sort out their own bullying behaviour problems Robyn - I'd sort it out alright, find the b....y kid and punch his lights out

[deedub]

Nanny Gert, love it!!
Hope the bullying gets sorted out Robyn - can't the school speak to the parents or something? Should not be allowed to continue, particularly if it's affecting your kids' attitude to school.

[obbie]

Thanks everyone. I loved that UK Nanny  show. The naughty corner was good for 2-3 year olds.
School says they have to learn resilience, and sort things out. I don't always agree with that..

[Emme]

I cannot believe that in this day and age that the school does not have a policy on bullying.  I think I would ask for a meeting with the teacher and headmaster and try to get something sorted out.  Surely they have some responsibility for what happens on school property. 

Marie

[achookwoman]

Obbie,  All schools should have a bulling policy.  Do as Emme suggests.
Our GC are not allowed Electronic games etc during the week.
Threat and remove them for behaviour at home.
Go up to the kid doing the bullying, get right in their face ,  and tell them that if it doesn't stop immediately,  they will have to deal with you.
there should be a teacher in the school ground.  Don't touch them.  I know you are busy but it might be a good idea to be in the school ground before school and at recess and lunch time for a week or so.  Look and see what is going on.  Write down what you see,  date and time.
Make sure your kids are not doing anything to encourage the bullying.

Gerts idea of removing door, as last resort,  a good idea.
If you can't get a meeting with the head of the school,  contact the Ed department.  Send letter with copy to head. Quote dates and times.

Good luck.

[obbie]

Thanks everyone. I will go see the teachers in the morning..

[fundj&e]

robyn if that doesnt work ,go and see/ask what the police can recommend, let the school know that you will be going to  the police  straight after the meeting you have with them

hang inthere love 

[*suzanne*]

Robyn I feel for you and your kids my DS was being bullied in pre-primary and I had a meeting with the teacher,principle and the bullies parents.

 It was all sorted quite quickly when the bullies parents became involved apparently they had no idea about their own child being nasty and causing all sorts of grief to a lot of the children in the same year, once they were informed they were able to assist in their child learning how to be nice to others and it soon did settle down

[droverjess]

Morning all
Lots of good advice Robyn especially from Emme and chookie.
Agree with being tough on behaviour at home, electronic bans and doors off if need be. Just don't waver.
It will all pass.

Hope the school will change its mind. There is different sorts of bullying, it cant all be lumped together.
If the teachers are non committal, go to the governors and insist there is an anti bullying policy put in place. Quote human rights if necessary.

It is a difficult one to solve, even with policies bullying sometimes never quite goes away. They do toughen up in the end and for some children school is to be endured. ( myself included, but a LONG time ago).

Another thought: Are you very busy at moment? Are you able to spend a bit more time with them to show that you do listen to them.

Hope it settles down soon, take care of yourself too.

[cookie1]

Robyn my heart goes out to you, there is nothing worse than having your child bullied.
The school has to have a programme for the bullying, ask to see it. If no satisfaction go higher and higher. Keep notes of who you saw, date time, who was present and what was said.
The school must have someone in the playground when the children are ooutside. In fact most schools have more than one teacher.
Don't be put off. It is their responsibility to give your children a safe workplace/school.

[snappy]

Robyn, i'm going to agree with Amy here.  It must be so horrible to get up every morning and know you are going to be teased any physically hurt at school that day.  I would really try and sort out the bullying before coming down too hard on their behaviour because undoubtably they are linked.

I would record not only your meetings/discussions with teachers but also the bullying they have been subject to.  If you don't get suitable action from the principle i would escalate it to the department of education.  I would be using phrases like 'my child is being physically assaulted and i will be reporting this assault to the police' and 'as a school you have a duty of care to provide a safe environment for my children and you are currently failing in that regard, my childrens safety is paramount and i will escalate this situation until my children are safe' .  You need to let the principle know that you are going to pursue this matter so s/he had better take it seriously.  And if you really want to put the wind up them, take in a digital recorder to your meeting and tell them that you are recording this meeting because you may need to refer to the principles comments later!!!

You need to show your kids that you will do everything and anything to sort this problem out because they are worth it.  Their self esteem is probably very low from the bullying and by fighting for them you are showing them that they are very loved.

Despite what others have suggested i wouldnt go approaching the bullies.  Adults intimidating young kids is a horrible look (no matter how horrible the kids are).  This is the schools problem to sort out.

[Cornish Cream]

Morning H, you're up early

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Evening Kim.Our early morning friend Uni must be having a sleep in
Hally was on earlier but it looks as though I miss her.

[droverjess]

Evening CC and Frozzie
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