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Title: Devestated
Post by: pumpkin pie on April 13, 2012, 10:00:51 am
I lost mum on boxing day and now dad has passed away  Tuesday. He just couldn't cope with loosing mum. There was no life without her for him.
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Post by: dede on April 13, 2012, 10:03:50 am
Oh PP that is so so sad for you, loosing one parent is bad enough, but loosing both in such a short time is devastating.
My thoughts are with you at this hard time. So sorry to hear.

Big hugs from me :(
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Post by: goldfish on April 13, 2012, 10:19:58 am
PP I'm so terribly sorry to hear this . . it's such a hard time for you.  Youre in our thoughts.  Do take one day at a time and remember to take extra good care of yourself particularly over the weeks ahead . .
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Post by: judydawn on April 13, 2012, 10:36:25 am
I'd like to add my condolences to you and your family as well PP.  What a terrible shock it must have been and how sad that your Dad couldn't live without your dear Mum, they must have had a wonderful marriage. 
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Post by: Halex on April 13, 2012, 10:37:53 am
Oh you poor love Pumpkin Pie, how terribly sad for you right now.

My thoughts are with you at such a sad time.

Huge hugs, I know ths doesnt help but I have lost my  both my parents, it is really hard, you just have to grieve & then be strong. Love them both & know they love you.

Hally

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Post by: pumpkin pie on April 13, 2012, 10:42:21 am
Thanks everyone. the one thing we keep telling ourselves is that Dad is where he wanted to be, with mum, as hard as that is for us, just watching him deteriorating so much was harder.
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Post by: JulieO on April 13, 2012, 10:44:38 am
My condolences PP, if there's anything positive to take from this, it's knowing how much they obviously loved each other.  Be kind to yourself.
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Post by: Deniser on April 13, 2012, 11:21:56 am
Oh PP so sorry for you.  This must be a really hard time.  How nice for two people to love each other so much that they can't bear to be apart.  It would have been very hard for you to lose your Mum and then to watch your Dad suffering so much in his loss.  I like to think that they are now back together where they belong. 
No matter what age we are it is hard to lose our parents - I do hope that you find some peace for yourself soon. 
Sending kind thoughts to you and your family.
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Post by: ElleG on April 13, 2012, 11:47:04 am
My condolences PP. What a difficult few months for you. Remember to be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to grieve.

I hope you can take comfort from the fact that your parents obviously loved each other very much.  I lost my father 5 years ago today, so he has been in my thoughts. I take comfort in the fact he lived a life he loved and he was so proud of his wife and family. I hope you can remember your parents with much love.
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Post by: kezza on April 13, 2012, 12:07:34 pm
PP so sorry to read your sad news. It has been written that hearts really do break when we lose our life partner.  Take care xxxx
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Post by: gertbysea on April 13, 2012, 12:10:54 pm
So so sad but happy your mum and  dad are together again.

Gretchent
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Post by: MEP on April 13, 2012, 12:16:49 pm
Hi PP, so sorry to hear of your lost. Nice to hear that your parents had such a strong and enduring partnership that when one goes, the other follows soon after. Take good care of yourself and hugs to you during this difficult time.
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Post by: Cornish Cream on April 13, 2012, 12:27:30 pm
Dear PP I'm so sorry to hear such sad news.Take care of yourself and hugs from me :-* :-*
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Post by: RoxyS on April 13, 2012, 12:28:19 pm
PP, I want to add my condolences and say I am thinking of you and your family. God bless.
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Post by: cookie1 on April 13, 2012, 12:34:14 pm
My deepest sympathy to you PP. Life must be difficult for you at the moment. Take strength from the deep love your parents must have had for each other.
No matter what age we are when we lose our parents it doesn't make it any easier. I hope you have family and brothers/sisters to help you through this sad time. Much love to you.
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Post by: fundj&e on April 13, 2012, 12:35:30 pm
My thoughts are with you and your family at such a sad time.

uni
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Post by: jkmt on April 13, 2012, 12:50:28 pm
PP, thankyou for sharing your sorrow with the forum. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. My DH's grandmother passed away like that just a few months after her partner some years ago. While some of her children didn't like this man who had come into her life in her sunset years, her grandchildren were always very thankful because they believed the strength of her love for him gave us all extra time with her. Your parents must have had a wonderful partnership.
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Post by: Meagan on April 13, 2012, 12:53:43 pm
How sad for you  :'( my condolences.
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Post by: CreamPuff63 on April 13, 2012, 01:56:46 pm
What wonderful parents you were blessed with. May they RIP, and may you find comfort in knowing they are now together again  :-*
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Post by: meganjane on April 13, 2012, 02:20:55 pm
How terribly sad for you right now. Rest assured your Mum and Dad are together again and no doubt wanting you to remember the happy times.
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Post by: Frozzie on April 13, 2012, 04:45:58 pm
Such sad news pp... My sincere condolences and hope you find the strength you need to get through this tough time xx
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Post by: Very Happy Jan on April 13, 2012, 05:45:48 pm
Sorry to hear of you loss PP.  :'(
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Post by: Lellyj on April 14, 2012, 12:07:00 am
So sad to hear your news PP.  Thinking of you xx
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Post by: desi on April 14, 2012, 12:28:37 am
I'm very sorry to hear about your loss PP. I know how difficult it is to loose our parents. I'm sure
the pain you're feeling now will ease with time but the precious memories will always be there. Take care.
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Post by: obbie on April 14, 2012, 12:30:59 am
Sorry to hear of your loss PP.
I'm thinking of you. sending lots of hugs for you.

Robyn
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Post by: faffa_70 on April 14, 2012, 01:17:58 am
PP sending much love your way.

This is the one thing we feared for my dad when we lost Mum just before Christmas. Thankfully Dad is doing well (though I think in a large part due to do with the fact that my single brother moved in with him)

Some wonderful words that were shared with me that may help you PP

"Grieve in your own way and heal in your own time"  - there is no right or wrong way or time to do this. You do what it is that YOU need to do to get through this.

Sending you all the strength I can to help you get through this and praying you are looking after yourself  ... at least a tiny little bit   :-* :-* :-*

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Post by: DizzyGirl on April 14, 2012, 03:45:14 am
PP I am sorry for your loss. My dad passed away on 8th March and it has been hard on us all. I worry about mum, but so far she is doing OK. I ring her every night just so she has someone to talk to.
Yes your dad is where he wants to be. It is hard to see them suffer but it is just as hard to say goodbye. I watched dad suffer and it was terrible. I just wish I could have him back without the cancer. I miss him everyday. I was daddy's little girl and some days I feel that I can not go on without him, but fortunately my loving DH and DS as well as my wonderful friends are there to pick me up and remind my that he is always with me.

Please take care and remember that I am here if you ever need to talk.
DG xxxxx
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Post by: Merrilyn on April 14, 2012, 04:40:12 am
Such very sad news PP but I firmly believe that your parents have been reunited and are smiling down on you and your family.

Look after yourself.  I'm sure they would want it that way.
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Post by: mcmich on April 14, 2012, 07:11:10 am
My sincere condolonces to you and your family PP.
He will be at rest now with his beloved wife.
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Post by: pumpkin pie on April 16, 2012, 11:19:22 pm
Thank you all for your beautiful words.  Yes I do believe that two wonderful people are now together again. forever. As a family we will take each day as it comes, and be there for each other, just as this forum is for us all, during difficult times. Thank you. Monica.