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Welcoming Center, Management and General Chat => Chit Chat => Topic started by: Halex on April 11, 2012, 11:14:31 am
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My family expect fantastic food & just grunt & snort!!!!
My neighbours love my cooking & are always talking about what I made for them last time. they are a pleasure to cook for ...as for the family..... Sometimes wonder why I bother, then othertimes they love & praise me.
Anyone else feel like this?
H
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Just wallow in the glory and accept the praise. I think my entire neighborhood must be sniffing my meals when I have the extractor fan on the kitchen going at full pelt! Aren't we lucky we can produce such fabulous meals with minimal effort?
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;D Hally. I know what you mean. Actually, my family are full of praise, but recently when I cooked for friends, I was astounded at the lack of expressed appreciation. I'm sure they enjoyed the meal, but I felt like saying, "Do you realise I made those Soft Buttermilk Rolls?"
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Well maybe it's our fault that we have raised the bar too high and our family and friends have too high an expectation from us!
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MJ, some guests just don't comment on anything whether it be a meal or a new piece of furniture. I can't help myself, I praise everything - can't keep anything to myself ;D I had a relative of DH here for a meal a while back - DH had never met them but because they got in touch on their Australian tour, I thought I'd do the right thing and ask them to come for lunch. Not a word was said about the meal except when we were seeing them off and one of them thanked me for the meal. You wonder why you bother.
Hally, I know what you mean. They are so used to being fed nice meals they come to think of it as the norm. Let them go eat with another family for a week and they would be rushing home to your lovely meals. My XH used to say ' why eat out when you can eat better at home' which translates as 'she's not a bad cook and I'm a tight a..e'. We do what we do because we enjoy it but if we think we are being taken for granted we can get our heckles up. You can soon fix that - there are ways and means to get reactions. Like 'I'm going out with girlfriends tonight, you can fix your own tea' or 'do you want baked beans or spaghetti on toast tonight'. Have the bikkie barrel empty, buy cheap and nasty bread. They will be eating out of your hand within a week or maybe even less.
Gosh I sound like a nasty piece of work don't I :D
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Judy, I totally agree! What really annoys me that I if I want to have a nice night out with friends etc and I haven't cooked anything, my husband is expecting something to be there to heat up. When I say to him that due to work, commitments with kids etc I haven't had time his answer is, well we'll just get takeaway! I find that they come to expect the lovely meals we make and absolutely flounder when we're not there. Once again, I think a problem of our own making!
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MJ, total sympathy with you, how many people make their own bread let alone soft buttermilk rolls.
JD, yes SPOILT they are. Sometimes the praise doesnt stop & then like today just taken for granted :(
Will have to work on a girls night, , thats not the hard part, the hard part is emptying the freezer full of yummy meals.
Maybe in a few months.
I served edc foccaica spread with caramelised garlic (FFS) with rock salt & rosemary, NO COMMENT, my terriyaki beef melted in the mouth, YES YOU GUESSED IT NO COMMENT.
Mind you on the cruise, when I rolled knee & ankle, ds did say will you be able to cook when we get home. i shoud have said NO NO NO, YOUR TURN ;D
H :)
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Merlin, DH answer is always take out too!!!!
H :)
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Well maybe it's our fault that we have raised the bar too high and our family and friends have too high an expectation from us!
i total agree its all our fault ;D
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Don't get me started on this subject :(
With a family of 7 it's nearly impossible to please everyone. I refuse to cook two separate meals for those who don't like this or don't like that. It drives me crazy. DH is excellent cause he will eat almost anything. The youngest 3 are the worst with being fussy.
Easter Sunday I feed extra and they all commented on the great meal (more so than the rest of the family.
But DH always comments on how great the meal was (even when I don't think it was that great)
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I get a little annoyed with a friend my husband invites over at least once a month. He is from out of town, separated, FIFO, and when in town the company pays for his meals although he lives in a self contained hotel unit. He normally can't be bothered getting a decent meal and so just walks to whatever not far from his unit eg pizza. He doesn't eat red meat, and loves fish. Every time he has come I have cooked something different (and at the same time worked during the day) and after cooking, have had to sit throughout the whole night while him and my DH talk shop yada yada yada. DH always raves and compliments me, but this guy just wolfs it down and never says anything or if feeling pressed "mmn yes its nice...but what I was saying before about (work)..."
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Dede, glad you were complemented on your easter feast.
CP, what a horrible inpolite man. No wonder he is on his own. Next time order in seafood pizza!!! Let them eat it & go out with friends.
OR do a roast lamb & he can have the veggies. ;DLOL
H :)
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I don't mind the cooking part its the deciding what to eat is the hassle, sometimes after dinner I ask them to give 6 meals they want to eat next week and the answer I always....always get is ...but everything you cook is so great, cook anything. Somehow they don't get its not the cooking part I want help with but the choosing part!
But I agree I have bought this on myself we rarely repeat the same meal in a month or more ....except homemade pizza & garlic bread every wednesday nite as we have family pizza and pool night ( pool table not swim ) :) I do just love it when we have extra people for pizza and pool night and they comment that our home made pizzas are way better than store/takeout ones, I just make the bases the kids top them.
My inlaws still don't get it that I cook everything ...... they can't see to fathom that the bread, cakes, biscuits, icecream, lasanga, everything we eat is made at home.
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Deeau I totally agree. I hate choosing what to have for dinner. My DS7 is a fussy water and we seem to eat the same things a lot. I do make Wednesday Night Mystery Night where I cook something different and if DS doesn't like it he gets baked beans.
My DH and DS always comment on my cooking, but my MIL always seems to do it different and better. I used to get upset until I tasted her cooking and realized we have different ideas on "nice". She over cooks her veggies and her rissoles and meatloaf have no flavor so I think we all get used to our own cooking. MY DH prefers my meals now but it did take him awhile to adjust to my style.
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CP, what a horrible inpolite man. No wonder he is on his own. Next time order in seafood pizza!!! Let them eat it & go out with friends.
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Let him pay for it too ;D
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I don't mind the cooking part its the deciding what to eat is the hassle, sometimes after dinner I ask them to give 6 meals they want to eat next week and the answer I always....always get is ...but everything you cook is so great, cook anything. Somehow they don't get its not the cooking part I want help with but the choosing part!
Oh, I understand that completely Deeau. When you practically do the thinking for those you care for (a MIL who lived with us for a couple of years some time back, my Mum just around the corner whom I keep an eye on and of course DH who gets everything done for him) your poor brain just needs a bit of help at times. I can remember asking MIL if she wanted tea or coffee - whatever is easiest for you would be the answer but surely you know what you really feel like. I wouldn't want a cup of tea if I felt like a cup of coffee. I just want them to have what they want at times, not what I feel like giving them. It can be so frustrating and you just want to scream :D
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+ the tip too ;D
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CP, order pizza for him next time he is in town.
I love cooking, and usually get good comments from people.
The hard part is what to have for dinner each night.
Robyn
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Oh I couldn't do that (but I smile at the thought). Its just annoying. Last time he came, he actually brought a bottle of white wine for me cos I don't drink red. I'm sure the meals mean more to him that he's willing to let on, but this cook just likes to know her efforts are a gastronomic delight ;)
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Of course you do CP and rightfully so too. We complain about these type of people but we continue to feed them and it's a real bonus if they do actually bring something to contribute to the meal, especially a bottle of white. I have had some oohs and ahs coming from some guests who are usually more sedate in their praise - I then knew I had served them up something really special. I think it was a standing pork rib roast which just melted in your mouth and obviously not something they had ever had before. I put a pat of garlic butter in the vegies and even that got the same reaction - it was quite funny really.
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Oh JD that is too funny, a pat of garlic butter in the veggies got oohs & aahs!!! That just cracks me up.
CP at east you got the wine, I bet he loves to come but doesnt want to appear keen.
H :)
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I don't mind the cooking part its the deciding what to eat is the hassle, sometimes after dinner I ask them to give 6 meals they want to eat next week and the answer I always....always get is ...but everything you cook is so great, cook anything. Somehow they don't get its not the cooking part I want help with but the choosing part!
Oh, I understand that completely Deeau. When you practically do the thinking for those you care for (a MIL who lived with us for a couple of years some time back, my Mum just around the corner whom I keep an eye on and of course DH who gets everything done for him) your poor brain just needs a bit of help at times. I can remember asking MIL if she wanted tea or coffee - whatever is easiest for you would be the answer but surely you know what you really feel like. I wouldn't want a cup of tea if I felt like a cup of coffee. I just want them to have what they want at times, not what I feel like giving them. It can be so frustrating and you just want to scream :D
I could not agree more. Please someone make a decision. When I ask DH to PLEASE tell me what he would like for dinner he ALWAYS says sausages. Scream??? you must have heard me in Adelaide JD.
Gert
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My mob very rarely say they have enjoyed the meal. This does bug me sometimes but they do tell me when they don't like it. Occasionally they will say 'that is nice.'
The other night my brother's partner was gobsmacked that I had made a 'woven' loaf to have with the entree and then naan with the curry. Everyone raved about the Beef and Ale pie. I think the reason being that it has Umami paste in it and of course they didn't know that.
They all thanked me when they left. It was then time to wash up as we don't have a dishwasher. (other than DH). The guests did offer.
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OMG - don't get me started on this topic - my DH is not a FOOD person - says it doesnot matter what he has - but he is quite difficult to cook for with a few allergies, intolerances and Crohn's.
Although he has become a bit more adventurous since we have had the TM and are growing a lot of our produce.
Asking him what he would like for dinner is always met with the same respone - " surprise me " There have been the odd occasion where i have said - " SURPRISE - get your own dinner tonight" !!!!
I love food, and love to cook, and agree that a - thankyou or that was great after all the love and effort that goes into cooking meals makes all the difference.
Im sure over the years that my step daughter has also just become to expect great meals, and forgets to say thanks.
I know that they appreciate it on some level - but i think they just beleive its part of our role to provide great food day in and day out.
i did have lots of house guests over easter and they were very thankful for all the yummy food that tm provided
Tan
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We had family for lunch this week and when I was clearing the table 3year old GD came up to me and said thank you for the nice lunch nana, now can I have some chocolate please. Bless her little heart, how could I refuse.
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My DH always thanks me after each meal and comments on what I have made. It is great and very much appreciated and our DGS now does the same even tho he ofter has a different meal (Asperger's fussy)
If DH didn't like what I made he gives constructive criticism, with why and what he would prefer.
He is not great in the kitchen but handy around the house and good in the garden etc.
If left up to him to decide what we would eat it would be cereal 3 meals a day , 7 days a week.
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My ex was the typical male who expected the meal to be made and presented on time every day regardless..
He often had male friends visit who treated me the same Grrrrr.
One asked me to get him a beer and I refused. i was busy with small babies.
My ex glared at me and and stated. Visitors in this house get what they ask for.!!
Ohh boy that did it. I walked out and said "Great. The fridge is in the kitchen. he can get whatever he wants. He doesn't need to ask"
I left the relationship soon after that.
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at least you knew what to look for and got it right the second time Rosie :-*
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RosieB over 6000 members and over 6000 stories, some are good, some are bad , some are sad and some are glad. What a great community eh? A safe place to visit.
Gert
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RosieB over 6000 members and over 6000 stories, some are good, some are bad , some are sad and some are glad. What a great community eh? A safe place to visit.
Gert
Soo true. My story is meant to be a glad one. :D
CP63. He is wonderful and definately a keeper. :D
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Is it just me or is grunting the standard language of teenagers? Whenever I make something for my 19yo step daughter and her friends, the food gets wolfed down in 10seconds flat and the only words muttered afterwards are 'err, it was alright, s'pose'. Teenagers are definitely another species!
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No manners I say.
Have you ever seen a group of teenagers sitting in a cafe eating?
Do NOT get me started on MANNERS!!!!
Gert
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Gert, I couldn't agree with you more! I think we should start a new topic on atrocious manners that we have observed! I shouldn't generalize as I do know some lovely teenagers who have excellent manners, but I hate to say that they seem to be in the minority and unfortunately there is a vast majority of young adults out there who have no concept of how to behave in public! I'm definitely sounding like my mum now!
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Had to laugh Merlin how many times I have heard myself sounding exactly like my mother! Scary isn't it.
I once had an 18 year old come to dinner with her father. She wore a crop top with a V neck cut to her nipples, a pair of cut off jeans so tight and so short I am sure she had an orgasim every time she crossed her legs which was often as she sat on the dining chair with her legs crossed over the ankles so could see her toes and pubic hairs above the table. Gross. I was disgusted. She never s topped talking about herself as she waved her knife and fork in the air while never taking her elbows off the table. There were 8 of us at the table including an old friend of my husband. He was sitting opposite her and was delighted.
Gert
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;D ;D
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My DH always complements me on my cooking whether or not he likes it.
I know when he really enjoys the meal as he says I " I would be happy to pay for that in a restaurant."
I agree with JD some people just don't comment on anything.
My cousin and his wife stayed with us for Christmas and I put in a bit of effort to make the guest room lovely - fresh flowers, candles, fluffy towels, nice toiletries, a chocolate on their pillows and not a word.
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:( thats so hard to believe mcmich :-)) not really i have a BIL like that . i would be over the moon to find chocolates on my pillow. ;D
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My DH always complements me on my cooking whether or not he likes it.
I know when he really enjoys the meal as he says I " I would be happy to pay for that in a restaurant."
I agree with JD some people just don't comment on anything.
My cousin and his wife stayed with us for Christmas and I put in a bit of effort to make the guest room lovely - fresh flowers, candles, fluffy towels, nice toiletries, a chocolate on theirs pillows and not a word.
Can I come for a visit?. I will bring wine and MANNERS.
Gert
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Some people drive me crazy with not showing appreciation. It free to just say a couple of words to make someone feel good.
I was brought up to be polite and kind, and I'm a big believer in saying something nice to make someone smile.
Thank you is not a hard word to say.
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What a lovely thought for your cousins, no manners from them sorry to say.
My neighbour brought some dishes back yesterday, they told DH that I was an amazing cook& that he was very lucky ;D he agrred.
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Gert thanks for the laugh. I bet she had her you know what pierced as well helping to create tose 'Os'.
I am a stickler for manners and it has worn off. Everyone who meets DS7 comments on his good manners. My pet hate is kids with no manners and attitude.
Last night I made curried sausages with curry paste and coconut milk. Unfortunately I added too much curry paste for DS liking. He said to me "Mummy you normally cook such yummy meals but this one is too spicy for me". He had baked beans with his rice and DH and I enjoyed our curried sausages and rice.
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Oh Dizzy I dared not look. I,ll ask DH as he no doubt did.
Gert
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This thread is so hilarious…my 17 year old who has grown up eating great food his whole life and consequently does not like maccas, (not much anyway!) is constantly telling me to leave the MasterChef kitchen….what the??
Suddenly they are all cooking show adjudicators…and certainly when his friends ever eat at ours, they are dutifully impressed and amazed and say all the right things, like ‘wow, do you always eat like this?’ Incredulously, he will casually say something like, ‘well, yes, but she’s always played with it first for a photo’ or, ‘I’m not really a fan of …..’ fill in the blank with prawns, scallops, quinoa, cheesecake, meringue, whatever….
cheeky little sod!
Good to know we are all the same though isnt it?? He’ll miss me when he moves out! ;D ;D
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He will never move out. You will have to stop cooking! To get mine to move out I took a sledge hammer to his walls making my dining area much bigger.
To get my daughter to move out I only had to take one wall out to make her bedroom into a dressing room for me.
Gert
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That sounds like a lot of hard work to get them to move out Gert, I just changed the locks lol
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jeninwa ;D thats what we do ;D ;)
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Loving this thread - thanks for starting it Hally and Gertie for your contributions :D :D
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DS is only 7 and I dread the day he moves out :'(
We have council approval to build a granny flat on our property, and if DS wants to stay on the property, he can have our house and we will build our dream little granny flat.
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That sounds like a lot of hard work to get them to move out Gert, I just changed the locks lol
You lock the door they come in the windows. ROFLMAO!
Nothing like a few renos as an excuse.
Gert
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Dizzygirl after you go through the TEEN years you may change your mind if you don't lose it before.
Gert
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Gert I will let you know in 10 years ;D
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Hope I am still here in ten years to read your story :-))
Gert
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DS 16 is talking about moving out in the next year or so. He has his head screwed on right so I think he will be fine when the time comes.
Now it's a fight on who will move into his room as he's the only one who dosnt share a room. I would love to make his room a study instead.
Do I make it a study and leave the other kids sharing rooms or do I let DS 14 move in there?
DS 14 shares with DS 5 and I think it would be good for him to have his own privacy. But DS 5 hates sleeping in a room by himself :(
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Dede, turn it into a walk in pantry LOL
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Mcmich, don't even get me started about my husbands cousin and her family who invite themselves to stay over, dump a bag full of laundry for us to do as soon as they arrive, never offer to cook or clean and don't help in any way whatsoever and have now just had the gall to invite themselves to stay at our house when we aren't even going to be around. Aargh!!!! As if we would let them in our house when we're not there- they trash it even in our presence! I am so sick of selfish and ill mannered people.
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Dede, turn it into a walk in pantry LOL
Now that's an idea ;D
Although its all the way up the other end of the house :(
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dede dont get 2 excited, he will be back :(
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Gosh we still have DD living at home. She doesn't have a partner and so is doing her buying of the block and building by herself. She has the block and is saving madly to pay cash for the house. She has her half of the house and we have the other. We all eat together and sit together of an evening. She helps round the house on weekends and is often buying me little gifts.
We love having her home as she house sits for us when we are away.
I will miss her when she shifts out though. I will have to be very brave and let her call the tune for visits.
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Cookie - couldn't agree more - my two have flown but they know this is their home and welcome back for any reason and at any time - They're both great and there's a lot I couldn't have done without their help and caring.
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cash for the house, is that possible these days cookie1
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When they are good they are very very good cookie1. Sounds like a good situation for you all. If she ever wants to sit house and look after two dogs in Cairns let me know. I don't even want gifts.
Gert
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She may take you up on that Gretchen.
Yes Uni. She earns a rather good wage. She is a professional in a hospital and although she loves clothes, shoes and books doesn't really spend that much. Her Dad is rather big on this pay cash thing and she has applied it to her block and now the house. Needless to say we're very proud of her.
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Fundj and cookie I have told him I will give him 3 months to make sure he is happy then the room is gone ;D lol.
We only have a 4 bedroom house with 7 people so I won't be having a spare room for many years yet.
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She may take you up on that Gretchen.
Yes Uni. She earns a rather good wage. She is a professional in a hospital and although she loves clothes, shoes and books doesn't really spend that much. Her Dad is rather big on this pay cash thing and she has applied it to her block and now the house. Needless to say we're very proud of her.
Let me know when she is available. Or you can come and mind the doggies.
Gert
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You have every reason to be proud of DD Cookie, pity a lot more of the young ones don't take a leaf out of her book and at least save a deposit for a house. You will certainly miss her but I'm sure there will still be the shopping trips to Singapore and Melbourne but the time comes when they have to fly the coop and fend for themselves. I'm sure every time she comes to visit she will go home with some goodies ;)
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That s fanastic Cookie, you will miss her when she is in her home. Maybe dh thought she wouldnt save & it was a way to keep her at home. ;D
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You may be right Hally. They have a very special bond. She is also very close to my brother. They are quite wicked together.
I'm sure we are all proud of our children for several reasons.
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Oh Gert you are wicked, it had me laughing so much my sides hurt :D :D :-* :-*
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Cp has the whole of upstairs..... Do we want him to leave home, no... We are making it hard for him to do so.
All the subconscious that we do...
H :)
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We have two at home, and one flown the nest. Trying to push a couple out but they are not budging.Thinking how much money we will have when there are not so many mouths to feed, and won't the electricity bill go down, and how easy will it be to pull out of our place without having to move cars around, and how nice to not look at the mess and put away all the dishes, and ... hang on, will it be boring without the noise and all those extra jobs that we have to do? Nah, I'm gonna keep trying to nudge the little darlins out :D (They can always come back home for a visit)
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I'm lucky that mine come home for a visit regularly. Well, except one who is FIFO and stays in Perth.
Love all the stories, Tenina, I can well imagine your DS making those comments to his mates. mcmich, how appalling that your cousins didn't comment on the little extras that you did for them! Gert, you crack me up!!
Hally, seriously, I'd go out next time your DH's mate comes.
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Loving this thread! It's taken me a while to get through 5 pages of it but worth every minute. Many, many chuckles and a couple of "laugh out louds "(trying to keep them down as it's 1am)
I'm very lucky as my DH is easy to cook for and almost always thanks me for dinner. DS18 also says thank you if it's something he likes (meat + meat + meat works for him) but DS13 is testing boundaries at the moment and trying to get away with grunts- not working but he's still trying.
Some of the tales of ill mannered visitor boggled my mind. How can people be like that??
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Thank you all for the sharing the special as well as the not so special moments with your families and friends and providing many smiles while reading this thread. I have lots of reasons to be thankful as I seem to have avoided the rudeness and lack of manners from family and visitors, all are very complimentary. I experience enough of the negatives when dealing with 15-17 yr old students!!!! :) :)
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Thank you all for the sharing the special as well as the not so special moments with your families and friends and providing many smiles while reading this thread. I have lots of reasons to be thankful as I seem to have avoided the rudeness and lack of manners from family and visitors, all are very complimentary. I experience enough of the negatives when dealing with 15-17 yr old students!!!! :) :)
You win johnro . A room full of 15-17 years old 5 days a week is a living hell. Don't know how you do it. Scotch? Gin?
Gert
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Johnro, that's is why teachers are so wonderful. Lucky we have 2 great ones for my little ones.
They have our kids 5 days a week.
Roll on Monday when school is back.
15-17 year old students, you need a medal for teaching them. scotch, gin, rum, anything.......
Robyn
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Teachers deserve a medal. There are some kids in DS class that I want to give a kick up the a$$. The are so cheeky and have no respect for anyone. Parents also think that teachers are responsible for reaching their kids everything. Education is 3 way - teacher, parent and pupil.
Johnro you are a gem :@)
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Johnro, you certainly deserve a medal. Teenagers on mass, GROSS, in fact kids on mass GROSS, LOL
H :)
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TEENAGES
A mammal found extensively throughout the planet, often clustered in groups in front of television sets (See SLOTHS). Thought to be a member of Homo Sapiens due to physical similarities, though social and emotional behavior leads many researchers to consider Teenagers to be a completely different species altogether (See PARENTS). Very territorial. (See ITS MY ROOM STAY OUT OF MY ROOM.)
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2) Of, relating to, and especially EXPLAINING irrational, intolerable, or inexplicable behavior. ("She's a Teenager.")
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Well, I don't remember mine being that bad when they were at home but teenagers are probably a whole new ball game these days - it sounds like a Richard Attenborough documentary Mandi :D
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Dede, perfect example.
Robyn
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Yes this is what teenagers are like these days Judy, society has changed so much, with so much technology around (I'm not sure it's a good thing)
my kids (3 of them) love their mobile phones, we have 5 computers in the house and everyone is on the net, we have 4 TV's, and 5 mobile phones. Even when I was a kid we only had 1 TV and that's it.
My DS 16 and DD 12 are very social butterfly's , they are always with their friends, when they are not with them they are texting, Facebook messaging or ringing them.
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If texting, Facebooking, or ringing is all they are doing dede u have done well, if you get what i mean
Is Facebooking a word? :-\
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Facebooking is definitely a word fundj :)
I think my kids know what's right and wrong, and I hope they will try to do the right thing most of the time. I guess as parents we can try to teach them what we expect of them and hope they listen when the time comes. With so many influences out there it's a scary world where we can't be with our children 24/7.
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OMG what a read ;D ;D ;D and Gert as descriptive as ever ;) ;)
I guess I am very blessed with my family and now I appreciate them a little more too.
DH always compliments me for the meal and my cooking, when the younger 2 are fussing he always reminds them that Mum has made this meal with love for all of us and the three teen+ boys always at the very least thank me for every meal when they leave the table (they are allowed to leave as the younger two can have us at the table for an hour or so sometimes :-)) :-)))
I only have to take a train ride in our lovely city and find myself repeating this mantra - "be thankful for what you do have at home Kathryn and remember what it COULD be like!!"
We refuse to tolerate the grunts and snorts and the idunno said more as a mummer - each time it was that isn't a word and forced conversation lol. In saying that I have decided that if I can't beat them I will join them :D :D My kids have all added me to their Facebook and if I really want them for something and they are hiding in their teen caves (aka bedrooms) I just text them ... they can;t ignore their phones lol. I have a rule when they are out that if I haven't seen/heard from them in 24hours I send an "are you alive" text and I EXPECT a reply pronto.
as for the help with deciding what to eat ... NOW THAT IS MY COMPALINT!!!!! Yes I get the same answer, we love what you cook, we are happy to eat what you make, you do such a good job etc etc ... like you all, just once or twice please take the pressure off and help me decide ... my poor brain is tired ;) ;)
Mine aren't looking to move out any time soon (not that they have told me anyway lol) and we are the same as you Dede, 7 people in a 4 bedroom house (we have converted our lounge into 2 bedrooms for the 2 youngest) so space is limited but by the same token I am dreading them moving out :-)) :-)) DS1 is away in Onslo working for about a month, has only been gone for a few days and I miss him already :-[ :-[