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Welcoming Center, Management and General Chat => Chit Chat => Topic started by: DizzyGirl on December 23, 2011, 11:49:03 pm
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It is going to be a sad Christmas this year. My dad is in hospital and they have found a growth and he will need an operation either Wednesday or Thursday. They aren't sure what it is, though it could be a tumor. The doctors think they have got it in time. Won't know until they do the operation. He will be spending Christmas in hospital. I just can't imagine Christmas without him. Lets hope this Christmas is full of miracles.
DG
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so sorry dizzygirl to hear that your dad is in hospital over christmas
can you go and visit him on christmas day
my blessing and prayers for a successful opertion and for a speedy recovery
l hope that you and the rest of the family have a happy christmas
and believe miracles do happen
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Sorry to hear your news Dizzy Girl... but yes miracles do happen. So as difficult as it will be try and enjoy your Christmas and yes a visit to the hospital will cheer him up and perhaps you could take some special treats for him and the staff to share. Hugs to you and your family.
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Sorry to hear the latest on your dear Dad DG - I'm sure you will visit the hospital tomorrow and give him some moral support and lots of love. Wishing him well for the op and hoping you can cheer him up with a visit. Think positively, that's all you can do. Group hug.
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oh no DG and i just posted on the other link hoping that all would go well...have to look at the positives that at least he is in the right place and they caught it early whatever it may be...stay strong and as long as yhou can be together it doesnt really matter in the end where you are :)
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Thanks girls for your lovely wishes. I think I might need to make something special for the hospital. Going to make Christmas Cookies with DS so might do 2 batches and take some to the hospital.
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So sorry to hear your news. My prayers are with you all at this difficult time. Just being together is what Christmas is all about surrounding each and everyone of you with each others love will lift all your spirits.
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DG, sorry to heard your news. Our daughter was in hospital on Christmas Day, when she was a Teenager and I thought is was the worst thing that could happen. But the Dr. pointed out the the staff who work on Christmas day are very special people and do every thing to make the day great and festive. Our thoughts are with you.
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(((DG HUGS)))
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DG my thoughts are with you and your family. The staff that work over Christmas are always lovely, especially if you take them some cookies. ;) Big hugs for your Dad and self.
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Sorry to hear DG that your Dad will be in hospital on Christmas Day.I'm sure your cookies will be appreciated by him and the staff.I wish him a speedy recovery after his operation next week. :)
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So sorry to hear that your father is in hospital and I hope he gets well soon. I am sure he would love you to take some goodies in for him on Christmas Day. You are in our thoughts and prayers and let us know how he is after his operation.
JB
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So sorry to hear your news DG. If the positive thoughts from your forum friends count for anything then your dad will be ok. Hugs xx
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Sorry to hear that, sending hugs.
Robyn
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Thanks for all your thoughts. We went in and saw him yesterday. He was happy although in pain. He had a great Christmas Lunch and his favourite doctor was all dressed up. He had santa boxers on, tinsel around his ankles and a Christmas tie on. He went around singing Christmas Carols.
Today at 10am they are operating. So far no news but No News is Good News.
DG xxxx
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finger crossed for you bella
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Keeping my fingers crossed for you DG and of course your Dad. :-* :-* :-* :-*
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All the best for a wonderful outcome. Hugs & more Hugs.
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Our prayers are with you for à good outcome... Hang in there... Hugs xx
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DG, hope you have good news for us. :-*
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Thinking of you DG xx
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The operation went well. They have taken bone to sample and now just have to wait for the results.
Thanks for all your kind thoughts, they have definately helped me survive the last few days.
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Hang in there. I'm sure you will cope with things whatever the results. :-* :-* :-*
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All the best for a positive outcome DG. :-* :-*
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Everything is crossed for you DG! Hoping that you're all in good spirits.
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Wishing you and your Dad all the very best with his treatment DG!
It's hard at any time of the year to go through this sort of tragedy but we are with you all the way. Massive hugs and strenght to you all.
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Oh DG my heart aches for you as I was in exactly your position last Christmas. Big hugs for you from me!
p.s. there is nothing like the love and support that you get from this forum to get you through the tough times - they are an amazing bunch of people :) Hang in there and know that we are all thinking of you :-* :-*
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I so agree faffa. I am very lucky as we are all still here, unlike Matt Golinski. My thoughts and prayers are with him as he deals with his sorrow.
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I am very lucky as we are all still here, unlike Matt Golinski. My thoughts and prayers are with him as he deals with his sorrow.
I got teary when I saw that on the news :'( just unimaginable sadness.
DG....sending positive vibes to you and your Dad xx
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I had to look up who he is, but OMG, what an awful tragedy :'(
DG keep your spirits up. Miracles DO happen and we are expecting good news.
JB
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Mum and dad told me about the chef and his family... So very sad :(
Dg yes hoping all goes well with the results!
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All our thoughts are with your father and the family. Please keep us informed in how he gets on..
Roll on next Christmas, so he is present at the Christmas Table.
From the crew at Thermomix
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My sad Christmas Day haas turned into a devastating New Year.
Yesterday we found out that my dear dad has cancer. :'(
We won't know any more until he sees the onchologist Monday week.
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Sorry to hear this devastating news DG and hope they can offer your DD some treatment. Loving thoughts and good wishes to you and your family. Thanks for letting us know the outcome of the tests, have been wondering how things were. :'( :'( :-* :-*
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DG I am sorry to hear the sad news.
Be strong & try & stay cheerful, hard to do I know.
Hugs
Hally
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DG you will find a lot of support her as many of us are Cancer survivors or have been touched by Cancer in another way. good luck to your dad.
Gretchen
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DG, so sorry to hear your news. I had been keeping an eye on this thread to see what was happening. My best wishes to you and your family.
Hugs from Melbourne to you.
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i join everyone else here in wishing your father a speedy recovery. All the best and be strong (hard I know).
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DG so sorry to hear your news. Please try and stay strong and positive (especially around your Dad - I had my melt downs in private).
There is always a listening ear here for you or otherwise this is one of the best places to go for some respite. As Gretch says there are many of us here that have been touched in some way - my own personall experience very very recent. Thinking of you heaps.
P.s. the best advice I was given from a cancer survivor when my Mum was diagnosed was to be present and available ... in other words don't go worrying about what next month or year will be, just concentrate on getting through today and making it the best one, then focus on tomorrow tomorrow.
ETA - this advice was given when Mum was having her treatment (as it is true what they say about the treatment - it's horrible!)
Hope that may help you a little :-* :-* :-*
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So sorry to hear your sad news DG. Hopefully there will be some better news from the oncologist when your dad goes. Faffa's advice is good. Make each day as good as it can be. :-* :-*
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Really sorry to hear your news DG - just one step at a time one day at a time! And I can only echo
faffa's excellent advice - I'd even go so far as to write it out and keep it almost as an affirmation -
"be present and available ... in other words don't go worrying about what next month or year will be, just concentrate on getting through today and making it the best one, then focus on tomorrow tomorrow."
we're all thinking of you.
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DG I am sorry to read of your devastating news. I, like many others have been waiting to hear.
Faffa's advice is excellent. I think it is a good thing to write down and keep near you. Believe me the first few days after the diagnosis are the worst. Then somehow you come to terms with things and get on with it. As Gretchen said many of us on here have personal stories of cancer and are still around to tell the stories.
As faffa said be strong for your Dad and have your melt downs in private with your immediate family. My thoughts are with you. Take care. :-* :-* :-*
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DG, try not to preempt what the specialist will say. We always think the worst. Keep in touch.
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DG my thoughts are with you and your family - the shock of such news is so difficult. I found the only way is to hold on to the view that life is dealt to us minute by minute and that is all we can expect to deal with - we can do nothing about the minute that is past and there is no control over the future minutes. Know that many feel your present pain and sadness!!!!!
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Thank you all for your love and support. It is very much appreciated. I haven't told many people as I am waiting til we gt the results from the specialist and it is great to know I can come here and am not alone.
Thanks again
DG xxxx
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This forum can be your letting off steam place. :-*
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DG hugs and support from me :-*
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DG - I can't really add anything to what everyone else has said but I do hope it's helpful to you to have somewhere to offload.
Keep strong for yourself and for your father and just take every day at a time for the moment. Let us know how the oncologist appt. goes.
Good luck :-* :-*
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oh DG so horrible to hear your news...i hope the results are the best that can be at the appointment monday week...thinking of you..hang in there and stay strong :-* :-*
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Never let go of hope DG. It is one of the only things that kept me going in my journey with my son as well as with my friend's little girl.
Plus you need to allow yourself to grieve through the process. Try to go with the flow as much as you can. As faffa has said, be there and present and don't expect anything of yourself. This is all completely new and there are no wrong feelings!
Much love and strength to you. xxx
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XXXOOO DG
Please keep positive for your dear Dad.
P.s. the best advice I was given from a cancer survivor when my Mum was diagnosed was to be present and available ... in other words don't go worrying about what next month or year will be, just concentrate on getting through today and making it the best one, then focus on tomorrow tomorrow.
That is wonderful advice!
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Gentle hugs from me DG. I'll keep you and your dad in my thoughts and in my prayers.
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Hugs and strength and peace coming your way.
There is no easy way out, just through. My mother in law is almost finished 2nd bout of chemo and she is an inspiration.
xxx
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Thinking of you, DG xx
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Big hug DG.
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Sorry I haven't been on here much. Things haven't been good. Dads cancer has spread. So far it is in his lungs, bones, kidney and stomach. Mum and dad are still waiting to see the Specialist on Monday. I won't be able to go with them as I will be in Sydney attending my best friends funeral. Unfortunately my BF lost his battle on Monday night. He has had a heart condition since birth and wasn't expected to live long, but he made 42 years (just...... he died the morning after his birthday).
DG :'(
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DG, I don't know why these things all seem to happen at the same time. Hang in there.
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DG this is a very hard time for you. Much love.
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What a terrible time for you DG.A big hug and much love from me.
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Oh dg love and big hugs... Hard time for you and your family xx
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Many hugs and sympathies to you DG....life seems so unfair at times, doesn't it! :'(
Remember you can let it out here if you need to. XXXOOO
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Hugs from me to DG (lots of them!!) :-* :-* :-*
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So sorry to hear theis DG. You must be having a very bad time indeed. We are thinking of you.
JB
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Dear DG, what a dreadful time you are going through at the moment. I just wonder how your dear Mum is holding up too?
Special thoughts are with you at this trying time. :-*
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Oh DG, I am so very sorry to hear this.
Fill your heart with hope, be strong.
Hugs Hally
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Words fail me, DG. SOmetimes life is so unfair. Hang in there, thinking of you x
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So sorry to hear about your BF and DD. Hugs to you, DG.
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There are no words to say at times like this DG.
Stay strong, let yourself grieve and go gently.
Thinking of you and sending much love and guidance.
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So Sorry to hear this.
Sending love and hugs,
Robyn
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Oh dear DG. Life is such a b***h sometimes. Lots of good wishes from here heading your way. :-* :-*
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Your sadness is almost tangible DG - know that you are in my thoughts xx
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Dear DG, hang in there. My mum passed away unexpectedly on boxing day 2011 and xmas will never be the same for us, I don't know how long your mum and dad have been together but your support of her now and later, will be of such importance. My mum and dad had been married for 65 yrs and it is devastating. Just spend as much time together with what time you have and drawer on all the strength that you can from all the people around you who love you, and care for you, because their support will help you through. Monica
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Oh pp every condolence to you and your family... Life is so cruel at times..
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I'm so sorry to hear PP, unexpected deaths are so hard to come to terms with. Sending love your way.
And DG you have a lot to deal with at the moment as well. Sending love your way too.
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My condolences PP on your Mum passing away.My Mum died very suddenly so I know what a shock it can be.
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Sorry to hear that pp, belated condolences to you and your family. We know we won't have our parents for ever, that's why it is so important to enjoy them and do everything we can for them whilst they are here.
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Thank you all for your thoughts, today was her birthday, so another difficult day, especially as my dad spent 6 hrs sitting on a bench in the cemetery, near where her ashes are, so she wouldn't be alone on her birthday, just heart breaking.
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Oh PP that is so sad. He must be so lost without her
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So sad and heartbreaking.. We are also worried about my fil as my dh just lost his mum at the young age of 65.. So must be very difficult for him and he is alone in their big house by himself with everything to remind him of her as all the kids live min 3 hoyrs away and we cant teavel with dh back....But we call him regularly and for the moment he is handling it ok but is finding it very hard which is normal... Think all you can do is be there ...
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So sad to hear your news PP. Remember you are in our thoughts and prayers.
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Frozzie, yes just let him know you are there. Memories will always be there, and it is early days yet, so things will get easier for all of those suffering the recent loss of a loved one, or helping loved ones cope with a terminal illness or end of life situation. My love to you all. Monica
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Ditto monica and to all those in the same or similar situation.. Xx
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PP belated sympathy on the loss of your Mum. I lost Mum in 2004 right before Christmas. Your Christmas time does change. My sympathy to all the Dads and in laws too, it must be so very hard to deal with. I don't think Mum ever got used to life without Dad, they almost made it to 50 years of marriage. Make the best of every day with them. :-* :-* :-*
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PP belated sympathies. Losing a loved one is a such a sad time.
My dad has been told that he only has 3 to 6 months to live. I am going to make the most of that time with him.
DG :-*
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DG, I am really sorry to hear this. It will be a tough time for all of you.
Enjoy the time you have with your dad & family.
Huge hug.
Hally :-*
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I'm so sorry to hear that news DG .sending you a big hug and :-*
uni :-*
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Oh that's such sad news to hear DG. I feel the pain you and your family must be suffering and my thoughts are with you :'( :'( :-* :-*
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DG this news is so sad. Make the very most of your time with your precious Dad but please take extra extra care of yourself, too - sleep and rest (hard I know) and the most nourishing food you can handle. With you all the way . . . .
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DG I know this is a very sad time for you but please, please take advantage of it. My Dad died very suddenly and I didn't have time to tell him how very much I loved him. :'(
My dearest wishes to you, your family and your beloved Dad.
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Such sad news DG,enjoy your time together.Love and hugs from me :-*
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DG my heart goes out to you - having lost both parents (in their mid to late fifities), I can relate to your family's position in some way. :-*
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Very, very sorry to hear this DG. Yes, you must spend as much time with him as you can and count each day as a blessing. You are in our thoughts.
JB
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DG I'm sorry to hear the news about your Dad. Keep all your family close and make the most of this precious time.
My thoughts are with you,
Take care, Katie xx
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DG, so sorry to hear this news, Just make every minute count, but yes you must also look after yourself, as this time can be so exhausting mentally and physically. My thoughts are with you and you family.
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Oh DG devastting news.... Cherish the time you have together ... I dont know hat is worse .. Having the chance to say all that you need to say ad losng them bit by bit which is painful and exhausting or not having had that chance ... Find strength in one another and again cherish every moment you can but make sure you get rest and eat well..like my gp says to me often if your not well then you cant take care of antyone or be there for anyone so think of taking care of yourself as a necessity.. Know its not easy.. Hugs xx
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Sadly I experienced both types of loss with Mum and Dad with each being as devastating - thankfully I had babies who required a functioning mother xx
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Xx robyn
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Sorry I have been away for awhile. Dads cancer was very aggressive and he lost his battle on 8th March at 1.45am.
I will try and pop in when I can.
Thanks
DG :'(
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Oh DG....so very sorry :(
Condolences to you and your family.
XXXOOO
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Sorry to hear that DG, our condolences and thoughts to you and your family. :'( :'(
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Sorry to hear that DG, my thoughts are with you. Take care. Hugs from me.
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PLEASE Take care DG and give yourself and your family some loving.
It is just over 3 months since we lost Mum just before Christmas. These aggressive cancers still take you by surprise even though you think you have dealt with it and said your good byes etc etc. We were told Mum had up to 6 months and lasted 4.
You pour so much into that time knowing that it is limited but you also forget to REALLY look after yourself so, as hard as I know it is, PLEASE make sure that you are doing just a little bit each day to look after yourself and give yourself a big hug from me. Thinking of you lots :-* :-*
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DG - I was so sad to hear your news - I think time is the best healer and faffa's right - you really must look after yourself now and give time the best opportunity you can to help you through. Take good care -we're all thinking of you and your family.
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I will join faffa and the others in wishing you and your family all the best.
Gretchen
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DG, sorry to hear this. wishing you and your family all the best.
Robyn
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Just sending all the strength, love and clarity I can DG. :-*
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My condolences DG.
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So sorry to hear about your dad DG. We all knew how close you were to him by all the things you said about him on the forum in the last 6 months.
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Deepest sympathy. Now he is at peace and out of pain and I hope you can take some comfort from that.
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I'm sorry to hear of your sad news.
Best wishes to you and all your family, take care xx
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DG, so sorry to hear your news. It is such an emotional time for everyone, so yes as others have said, take some time for yourself.
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DG take comfort in knowing although your father has left his earthly body he will always be around you.
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So sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts are with you and your family during this time. Take care of yourself.
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Oh dg so sorry to hear how quickly it all happened and of course for your loss... Thinking of you and your family .. How horrible. :((( my condolences .. Hang in there and take care of yourself like everyone had said .. Big hugs xx
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((Thinking of you in your time of loss.))
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Know that my thoughts are with you and your family DG - many can relate to your loss in some way, sincerest sympathy to your family.
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My thoughts are with you DG at this sad time.Hugs from me too.
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Sorry to hear of your loss DG. It doesn't matter whether you know it's coming or you don't - it doesn't make it any easier when it happens. Condolences to you and your family.
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, DG. My thoughts and prayers are very much with you. Hugs from me too.
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Oh DG, really sorry to hear this.
Mega hugs & love
Hallyxx
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Condolences DG. My thoughts are with you in these difficult times.
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So sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you at this sad time.
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DG my deepest sympathy to you and your family in the loss of your Dad.
The pain never goes away but you do learn to live with it.
Take care. xxx
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So sad to hear your news, DG. My thoughts are with you. xx
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Oh bella ,so very sorry to hear this news.
Condolences to you and your family.
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DG, sorry to hear your sad news. Pop in when you can. We all understand.
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I have only just come across this and want to say how so sorry I am. You and your family are in our prayers.
XX
JB
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Thanks JB. Today was their anniversary so I took mum out for lunch. Such a sad day. I miss dad like mad.
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DG my Dad has been gone for 15 years and I still miss him horribly.
Love to you and your Mum. You have a lot of firsts to come this year.
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Thanks JB. Today was their anniversary so I took mum out for lunch. Such a sad day. I miss dad like mad.
:( Awwww DG
I hope your Mum and yourself could talk about some wonderful memories....XXXOOO
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I hope your Mum and yourself could talk about some wonderful memories....XXXOOO
I agree Maddy
JB
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Mum bought a matchstick from the bakery today. Dads favourite. She is having it for dessert.
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DG, my dads been gone 28 years, I still miss him. Sometimes have a cry, I was only 22.
Big gigantc HUG
Xx
H :)
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Thanks for all your love and support.
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DG, my heart goes out to your family - the first year is so terribly hard as birthdays, anniversaries and other special days approach. I still miss both my parents terribly but the memory of the toughness of the first year after losing each is still very vivid. xxx